The end of January is approaching, which means, statistically, half of us have already given up on our New Year's resolutions. According to statisticbrain.com, the most common resolutions made every year are related to bettering ourselves physically. But I think the real, underlying goal - the one thing we all want - is to feel good about ourselves and gain confidence. Because, well, confidence is attractive.
Here are 5 qualities that make someone attractive (and I don't just mean physically):
1. They make their health a priority.
Nothing makes you feel more confident than taking care of your body and feeling like it is running like a well-oiled machine.
If you don't love working out, start slow. When it comes to setting goals, make them short-term, or weekly. You'll be more likely to stick to them.
There are so many benefits to working out. You'll look good, but more importantly you'll feel good.
2. They have busy calendars.
You know what's attractive? A woman who goes out into the world and gets shit done.
Stay busy. Be productive. Go out. Meet people.
When you're keeping yourself busy, surrounding yourself with awesome people - new friends, as well as those who've stuck by you forever - you'll feel loved, inspired, and confident.
3. They spend time doing the things they're passionate about.
Singing. Reading. Painting. Training for a half-marathon. You name it.
It's not easy making time for hobbies when you're busy with work, school, errands, and all the other boring "have-to's." But guess what. Your passions and hobbies are also "have to's," as they're essential for your overall health and well-being. That 45-minute yoga session could be the difference between a peaceful night's sleep and a mental breakdown.
We're always saying we're "too busy" or have no "free time," but is that really true? Think about how many hours you spend scrolling through social media in a week or binge-watching a show on Netflix. (Don't get me wrong - sometimes it's completely necessary.) As relaxing as it is, it's not a hobby. So fill your time with the things that light you up. Those things are a lot cooler to talk about on a first date than that last episode of Stranger Things.
4. They ditch any negativity in their lives.
That toxic relationship, friendship, job, or bad habit. It's not doing you any good, so why stay stuck?
Stress and negativity can take a serious toll on our physical and mental health.
Everything is a choice. You can choose who you want to be friends with. You can choose to stay at a dead-end job that you dread every morning around 7am. You can choose to stay in a relationship that you know isn't right. Or you can walk away and refuse to settle.
Let go of the negative things in your life that hurt you or hold you back. You don't need 'em.
5. They are happy just as they are.
Accept yourself, the way you are now. You don't have to love every single thing about yourself. Everybody has things they wish they could change, whether it's a "flaw" in their appearance or their personality. But as long as you're doing your best to better yourself, those things will seem insignificant. When you're happy and putting yourself at the top of your list, you are your most attractive.